Truth to Fear

What is more important -  the going or the getting?   When I was young my father used to ask me that question as I was waiting for something specific to happen (summer vacation, Christmas, or being in a long line up for ice cream). Sometimes this helped me to be less...

What is your mindset toward conflict?  If you are like most people you don’t like conflict.  And for good reason. Conflict feels bad. It is uncomfortable, frustrating, even infuriating. It makes us feel upset and out of control - negative emotions we would rather not...

Most of us understand that change is hard and growth is uncomfortable. But simply knowing this is seldom enough to motivate us to expend the effort required for sustainable change. Instead, we continue to engage in behaviours that feel safe and comfortable thus...

Years ago when I had a corporate job my co-workers and I would talk about our work culture as if it were an entity. We called it 'IT'. And we assigned IT a life force all its own. When timelines were missed we said IT is happening  Expectations felt fuzzy because of...

Conflict lives through polarized truths. I have my truth, you have your truth and we both believe we are right. And we will always find reasons and evidence to support our truth. Communication, if there is any, amounts to proclamations and efforts to convince others...

I tend to chase certainty. I want to feel confident and guaranteed that my choice will have an expected result. This creates a belief that I can only act when I feel ready. Yet time and again I discover that I only become ready through action. As important as planning...

“Wisdom begins in wonder” - Socrates Our deepest problems have secrets to share. If we are willing to listen.   So often, in an attempt to resolve a difficulty I rush to judgment by asking, 'Who is responsible for this mess?' The answer results in some negative...

“The greatest and most important problems of life are all fundamentally insoluble. They can never be solved but only outgrown.” - Carl Jung   We long for definitive answers to our toughest problems. A clear ‘do this' or ‘don’t do that’. But sometimes despite our...

The other day a friend gave me her phone saying 'look at this'. On the screen was a lovely quote about friendship with a poignant reminder to relish our time spent with others. Handing the phone back I saw her eyes were teary, as were mine. In the silence of a sacred...

The struggle is real.   Life provides us with no end of frustrations, disappointments, and even heartbreaks. Small or large, expected or unpredictable, inconsequential, or life-changing; everyday most of us are facing some variety of life problems.   Most we...