Complicating Conflict Makes it Unsolvable

There’s only one way to address interpersonal conflict; engage in conversation.   Yet this is the very thing we won’t do.   Instead, we overthink stressful situations, imagine why they exist, and craft stories to generate a comfortable understanding of our...

Our Choices in Conflict Define the Story of Our Life

Within tense and stressful encounters we tend to respond in kind. When someone is disrespectful it prompts us to react with disrespect. When we feel diminished by another we respond the same way toward them. This is the perpetual negative loop that sustains conflict....

Focus On Fulfillment Over Fear

Worry pretends to be important.   But it’s not, it’s just rumination on our frustrations, stressors, and worse case scenarios. And this repetitive dwelling on our difficulties is a huge source of unhappiness, hopelessness, and a breeding ground for further worry. We...