Truth to Fear

How do you describe your relationship with conflict?  If you are like most people it is an unhappy one and a leading source of frustration, disappointment and pain. It doesn't have to be this way.   Loretta was annoyed by her colleague's behaviour in meetings....

How often do we go to the thought 'This shouldn't be happening' when we are faced with a difficult situation? And the larger the difficulty the stronger this thought becomes. We start looking for everything that is wrong. The mistakes people made, the bad luck, the...

Work-Life balance is a zero-sum game that implies work and life are two different things.   They are not.   Pursuing a fulfilling life shouldn't be a competition of time or energy.   I once worked with a man who kept a countdown calendar for when he...

Years ago there was a show on the PBS called The Operation which profiled a specialized surgery. Each episode told the story of a surgeon and patient and there was always real footage of an actual operation!  (This real-life documentary series was a precursor to what...

We have all participated in expressions of drama.     Gossiping Venting Blaming    In the moment drama energy is captivating, even all-encompassing. We share our negative thoughts as if they were truths and it feels good.   How dare she? What’s wrong...

One of my favourite family activities over the holidays is to work on a picture puzzle. We lay out the thousands of pieces on a table and over the span of 2-3 weeks we work toward creating the final image. Some days many pieces are put together and other times only...

Much is written about the habits which help us to be stronger versions of our self. There is plenty of good advice around nutrition, exercise as well as the best practices for our physical, mental, and emotional health. We only need to google any of these keywords and...

If we don’t give fear the respect it deserves it will out-power us every time.    One of my favourite scenes from the iconic movie Dirty Dancing is a conversation that takes place between Johnny (Patrica Swayze) and Baby (Jennifer Grey). Baby had gone to her...

Have you ever thought about what conflict is?  For sure you have experienced the symptoms of being in conflict but what exactly is it and why does it occur?   My definition of conflict is this:  When someone believes their needs are not or will not be met because...

We have all heard Nietzsche’s famous saying.....’ what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”, and for those of us who have experienced hardship and loss (which of course is ALL of us), we know there is profound truth in these words.   But what is also true is sometimes...